An Open Letter To People In A Relationship

If you are reading this you probably are in a relationship, about to enter into one or just came out of one. Whichever is your case this article has one or two things to teach you. As the title of this article suggests, the content is open to users discretion.it could be accepted or rejected as the case may be. You might also want to give this article an alternate name ‘One reason why relationships break prematurely’. Most of the content of this article are drawn from my personal relationships experiences in the past 7 years. I’ll try to be as straight-forward and straight-to-the- point as possible. The reason why relationships nowadays break up prematurely is simply because either one or both parties involved in the relationship have during the course of entering into the relationship raised too many banners ,sign boards or love indicators that when these banners, sign posts or love indicators begin to go down or disappear it becomes obvious that the love is either no longer present or is fading away.in a layman’s language we can say they have started what they can’t finish.as you read through this article try thinking of any failed relationship(s) and you will find out that the reason it failed is tied around this singular point directly or indirectly. Take for example, A girl just gets into a relationship with this new guy and the next thing she does is to change her phone and laptop wallpapers to a picture of this guy, hangs his picture/portrait by her mirror, change her blackberry name to his name (e.g. Tony’s Baby), change her passwords to his name, just to mention a few. Some people will even go as far as sending routine text messages. I’m not trying to condemn such acts or saying they are wrong but they should be done to moderation. The question is how long can you keep that picture of him/her on your wallpaper/screensaver? what if you went home then you had to temporarily remove his/her picture because of your parents then you forget to put them back when leaving the house and he or she sees that you removed their pictures as your wallpaper? How long can you keep sending those texts to him every morning and night? How long can his picture be your twitter avatar? In most cases (if not every),the guy or girl this is been done for never asked for it as a prove of your love for him or her(someone who really loves you would hardly tell you to do such things to prove your love), most time we just do it out of our own over excitement about the newly found love/relationship. This feeling is normal for people entering into new relationships but it is good to try to curtail it so you don’t start something you can’t finish because the very day you stop any of these things maybe not intentional but due to tiredness, being too busy, illness etc that’s the same day your relationship begins to crumble. In conclusion, the best way to maintain a good, healthy and long-lasting relationship is to act matured right from the onset. Don’t start things you can’t finish, you could use his/ her pictures as your BBM display picture or twitter avatar but not permanently, you could send a text or two but it shouldn’t be a routine and lastly I would advise(especially ladies) that you don’t use his name as your BBM or twitter names. Like I said earlier this is an open letter from one concerned Nigerian graduate. You could choose to heed to the advice or not.my joy would be to know that you found the content of this article useful. I could be reached at Franyade@yahoo.co.uk or on twitter @eskidon. thanks for devoting your precious time to read this.